tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6811559212650590277.post1533199023153688862..comments2023-04-01T01:07:04.676-07:00Comments on Broken Hearts, Redeemed: How Do You Tell Your Toddler His Baby Sibling Has Died?Andrea Arthur Owanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00277746828475410484noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6811559212650590277.post-32811143865695168832013-06-26T12:56:59.155-07:002013-06-26T12:56:59.155-07:00Since my original response was too lengthy and wou...Since my original response was too lengthy and would not be accepted, I have elected to maintain the length and add my response to your heartfelt comments as an additional post.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing so much of your story and heart with us!!<br /><br />Andrea <br />Andrea Arthur Owanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00277746828475410484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6811559212650590277.post-47150135391736139182013-06-18T14:33:50.969-07:002013-06-18T14:33:50.969-07:00Reading through your posts and sounds so much like...Reading through your posts and sounds so much like my story. 5/20/13 I was rushed to the hospital via ambulance with extreme pain while 18 weeks pregnant (second pregnancy). I had internal bleeding, placenta percreta and old c-section scar was starting to open. My baby girl died while doctors removed my uterus to help stop the hemorrhaging. I almost did not make it. While my husband waited, he was told I had bled out completely and that the surgery was complicated. It seemed like they were preparing him for the worst.<br /><br />I have a three year old daughter. She was so excited about her baby sister. Talking to her and telling everyone proudly that she was going to be a big sister. Having to tell her was incredibly heartbreaking. She asked where the Dr. put the baby. She asked if the Dr. was nice to the baby when he took her out of my belly - if they said "coochi-coochie-coo, because babies like that and it makes them smile". Such innocence.<br /><br />I also feel guilty - like I lived at the expense of my baby girl. But, I know there was not really a choice. It was either both of us would die or I might live. I feel like I failed my baby and could not even protect her.<br /><br />As for trying again, that is not an option since I needed the emergency hysterectomy. I lost my baby and future babies.<br /><br />I have not read your later posts regarding the future and healing. I'm just not there yet. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com