Monday, October 5, 2015

After Grief: Learning How to Thrive

There comes a time in the grieving process that you need to start looking up and moving forward. And not only do you move forward, you can thrive. God doesn’t just want you surviving. (If that’s what’s happening, I think you may be giving too much power to something else in your life.)
            Here’s 3 tips for not just living well, but thriving.

1. The first, and most important place to start in your quest to thrive is to have Christ as your Lord and Savior, to order and guide your life, to give you a hope and purpose. You have been fearfully and wonderfully made. God wants to give you a hope and future. In order for that future to transpire, you need to know what His plans are for you. He’s the one who plants hope and dreams in everyone’s life.

2. Second, live your life intentionally, with a purpose. Resist being double-minded or floating back and forth like kelp in the tidal flow. When society goes one way, human kelp scurry that direction and allow themselves to be pushed that direction by the mob. And when the tide changes direction, they float that new direction. Living life based on your emotions makes for a shallow ride. Think deeply, reason well, and live intentionally.

3. Third, live a balanced life. Spiritually. Emotionally. Physically. Spend time with God, meditating on Him and His word. Promote peace in your heart and avoid negative people. Put away the complaining. Have a positive, and realistic, view and attitude toward life. Exercise, eat well, and get enough sleep.

            Time spent with God will fill you with the spiritual wisdom, discernment, strength, power and courage to confront life and give you victory over your circumstances. It will transcend and permeate everything you do, and the way you view the world.

            Exercise keeps your body and brain functioning well to live and enjoy life. Sleep helps heal your body and re-energize your brain. Poor food choices can kill you, quickly or slowly. It can cause both acute and permanent disease and illness

            When our dream dies, we can’t let our hearts stop dreaming. We weren’t born just to survive. God wants us to thrive anyplace He plants us, in any situation.

In a nutshell, it’s about roots. Your roots. Into what soil have you sunk yours? Near life-giving water or in dry, barren landscape? Are they constantly digging deeper and being fed and nourished, or are they shallow, spindly and weak?

            Check the fruit you’re producing in your life to arrive at some of the answer. Healthy roots produce plump, juicy, sweet fruit that people like to partake of. Do you need some pruning to produce more? Do you need a season of rest, to gather energy for the next round of production? Do you need grafting to something, someone, stronger who can help you bear more fruit?

            Today’s post can be summed up in a couple of Scripture passages. The first one is found in Psalm 1: 1: 1-3

Blessed is the man
Who walks not in the counsel of the
Nor stands in the path of sinners,
Nor sits in the seat of the scornful;
But his delight is in the
And in His law he mediates day
            and night.
He shall be like a tree
   Planted by the rivers of water,
   That brings forth its fruit in its season,
   Whose leaf also shall not whither;
And whatever he does shall prosper.

            The second comes from John 15:1-5:

“I (Jesus) am the true vine, and My Father is the vinedresser. Every branch in me that does not bear fruit He takes away” and every branch that bears fruit He prunes, that it may bear more fruit. You are already clean because of the word, which I have spoken to you. Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in Me.

“I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.”

            Take heart. You can, and will thrive after grief!

            Need some extra encouragement? Listen to and read the words of this song. And don’t be afraid to thrive!

            Then come back and let us know how you’re thriving!

Until next week,

Thanks for joining me!



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